Let's face it - no one likes to be rejected. Maybe it's getting rejected for a job you really wanted, not getting approval for a project you had high hopes for or not getting a text back from a person you really liked. None of these scenarios are pleasant and most people have a hard time accepting rejection.
Often we interpret rejection as a proof that we are not “good” enough and it can really lower our self-esteem. It can also make us question our self-worth and if we have to deal with many rejections it can even lead to feelings of anxiety and depression. Therefore, it is really important to learn how to accept rejection.
First and foremost, I believe we should never take any rejection personally. Oftentimes it really has nothing to do with you as a person, it is simply an indicator of incompatibility between you and the thing/person you wanted. And the fact that you didn't get the job which is not the right fit for you or got rejected by a person that wouldn't bring any value into your life is a good thing, right? It simply redirects you to other jobs and people that are right for you.
Being rejected can actually be even very valuable, it can help you make some changes or re-evaluate your plans. Nothing in life is purely “bad” or “good”, it all depends on us and which meaning we assign to it. So, if we learn to see rejection as something “good”, something that can help us improve and take it as a learning opportunity rather than a “disaster”, accepting rejection will immediately become easier and effortless for us.
I used to take every rejection in all areas of my life very personally and sometimes I would still contemplate on it for weeks. This had a very negative effect on my self-esteem as it made me feel like I am not worthy of achieving something. I remember one case when I really wanted one specific job, I convinced myself it was my dream job and I was determined to get it. When I was turned down after the last interview I was devastated and I really believed my life was over as I didn't get my “dream” job. A month or two after this happened, I was offered another job which fit my personality and skills much better and was also better paid, had more benefits and was just generally a much better fit for me. This made me realize that the rejection happened for a reason. My “dream” job was just not right for me and probably it was anyway not as dreamy as I thought it was.
Even though I had this experience that showed me rejections aren't necessarily “bad”, I was often still struggling to accept them. Until I played the Leela Game and learnt that every rejection is actually a blessing in disguise. Some things are simply not meant for us and this doesn't mean that we are not worthy of them, it just means that something better and more suitable is waiting for us. Sometimes we hear someone say “I tried everything and nothing seems to work. I don't know what else I could do, I just keep getting rejected.” If we keep “knocking on the same door” and don't receive the outcome we desire, it might mean that it is time for us to try and knock on another door.
To sum it up, rejections are a part of life and everyone of us experiences it at some point. It is okay to feel sad and hurt when we get rejected, it certainly isn't pleasant for any of us. But it is important not to blame yourself for what happened. Getting rejected does not say anything about you and your worth, it does not mean you are inadequate or unlovable. It simply means that there was some form of incompatibility. Try to keep an open mind about it, focus on what this experience can teach you, remember your strengths and practice self-care. And most important of all - don't give up. Even if you get rejected ten times, it does not mean that you will never get what you desire. Wonderful things are waiting for you, just believe. :)
If you struggle to accept rejection to the point that it lowers your self-esteem and interferes with your self-worth, playing Leela Game might be beneficial for you. You can find more information here.
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